Monday, June 24, 2013

The Quarter-Life Crisis.

This past weekend we had my boyfriend's family in town for his grandfather's 90th birthday. It was a fun weekend full of surprises, and a few ups and downs. All in all, it was a great weekend but there were a few events that really made me think about things in my life -- things that I am happy or not happy with, and things that I would like to change in the near future. Rome wasn't built in a day and I know that it won't happen over night; many of the changes that I want will have to happen over a period of time before I am at a point in my life that I would like to be. 

The title of this post and the below speel is about the quarter-life crisis we all face and relate to; even though I will be 30 years in December, sometimes a lot of the time, I feel like I should be 24 instead of 29 because I still very much relate to the first few paragraphs of what is written below.  

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

 -- Unknown


  1. I think I am having a quarter life crisis (I am going to be 24 this November). I have yet to blog about it but I might soon.. Thanks for this post!

    1. I honestly feel like I should still be 24, not 29!